When we think of great leaders, we often look outward and beyond. We think of executives, athletes, public officials, and even celebrities. In reality, many of the most impactful leaders are those who lead close to home. How we lead within our families can contribute to the most important results we experience.
What’s fascinating about family leadership is that we often fill roles that no one else, or just a few other people, can fill. Family roles are special for the strength of connection, shared experience, duration, and opportunity for love and leadership they can offer.
We understand that not all family relationships are healthy or joyful. Most of us have experienced challenging family dynamics. Yet what we often overlook is the value of the leadership skills we can bring to the people we call family.
Here are ways you can lead your family:
Practice love and acceptance always. The more welcoming you are to your family members’ uniqueness, the more of a safe harbor you’ll create. Let the outside world take care of judgment and disapproval.
Be the standard keeper. We live in a culture where it’s perfectly okay to blame anything and everyone for why your life isn’t going well. Blame is pervasive; accountability is uncommon. Build relationships with your family members that allow for the honest sharing of expectations and supportive accountability when they are unmet.
Anticipate and meet needs. It can be hard to ask for help, even from our family. Be the one who recognizes needs and takes action to support before you’re asked. Proactive service can be a powerful way to express how much you care.
Show the way. While there’s no room for perfectionist standards in families, there’s plenty of room for positive role models. By being credible, caring, compassionate, and trustworthy, you earn the opportunity to influence and inspire the people you love.
When we lead within our families, we can see the impact of our love and effort. We learn and grow in powerful ways as our kids, parents, siblings, and others teach and shape us. That is a sweet reward.
