New Year, Same Me
Ben Whiting, December 31, 2018
So it’s that time of year again. The time where we start to analyze and inventory our personal deficits so we can start planning for a new and improved version of ourselves beginning January 1st. Technically we could change now, but who are we kidding? Those leftovers aren’t going to eat themselves.
Now how do we begin this analyzation process? More often than not we start by comparing. Wouldn’t it be nice to be as physically fit as Jordan? How great would it be to have the money to buy a new Jeep like Kristina’s? I wish I had the self-discipline to eat as healthy as Brett or to be as present and full of gratitude as Stephanie!
Unfortunately, social media makes comparing (aka scrolling) all too easy, and falling down the look-how-much-better-my-friends-are-doing-than-me rabbit hole can happen before we even realize it. However, more often than not, we’re not really comparing ourselves to other people. We’re actually comparing ourselves to an ideal, perfect version of us. All the while forgetting perfection is unattainable. However, while perfection is unattainable, improvement is well within our grasp.
So this year I’m challenging myself and you to cut out the middleman of comparing, and remember that to be imperfect is to be human. Let’s forgive ourselves for not being perfect and remember we have to have the compassion to be kind to ourselves first and then to others (because as it turns out we can’t practice compassion with other people if we can’t treat ourselves kindly).
Then instead of focusing on achieving perfection or the success of those around us, let’s focus on improving a little bit each day. When we make mistakes or fall off the achievement wagon (as we will) let’s not blame ourselves or feel shame, but laugh and say, “man I’m good at being human!” When we’re grateful let’s not make it because we’re getting ahead in the comparison derby, but because we’re just a little better than we were yesterday, and no matter what day it is remember when it comes to being the best version of yourself, no one else can come close to comparing with you.
Happy New Year!