|Do you ever find that you’re frustrated with others and their unwillingness to change? |
I certainly have been in that position before. In fact, I was talking with a group of colleagues last week and we concluded that while we’re all completely satisfied with our own status quo, we get frustrated when others are satisfied with theirs.
Why is that? Well, part is that other people’s problems are easy to solve. It’s easy to look at someone and begin a sentence, If only you could just …
Finish something you started
Stop being so set in your ways
Be more open minded to new opportunities
Get over your ego
It’s hard, though, to apply the same scrutiny to our own lives. We have egos. We tend to not see our flaws. However, the truth is that if we so desperately wish others could change, they likely wish the same of us, too.
A useful exercise is imagining that you are one of the stakeholders in your life – a trusted colleague, an important client, a spouse or partner, best friend or sibling. Then, complete this sentence from their point of view: “If only you could just …”
It might be surprising to realize how frustrating we can be to other people. This knowledge can be incredibly useful as we seek to grow, develop and improve relationships.
And any action that we can take on this guidance will help us shake up our status quo a bit, too!
PS For extra credit this week, go ask one of your stakeholders, “What’s the one thing I do that drives you crazy??!!” Then, listen without getting defensive. Say “thank you,” instead. They just gave you a great gift!